Welcome to show 3! I’m so happy to have you hear and wish you all so much happiness, love and goodness in every part of your lives.
Have you ever thought of yourself as a generator? Meaning, have you ever thought that you are a small energy machine. If we stop and think about it, we burn fuel through food, air and water. We maintain our inner temperature hopefully at about 99.6 degrees Farenheit through the fuel we are burning, so to speak. We are literally physical, energy generators. BUT- something that is often not considered as well is that we are also emotional energy generators. Just like how we eat food or drink water and that goes to keep our ‘generator’ running. The thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, feelings, etc that we maintain tend to run in loops. They loops generate certain types of energy states. We can be generators of anger, hate, anxiety, depression, guilt, etc. However, we can also be generators of positive emotions as well such as love, compassion, kindness, empathy, happiness, peace, etc.
We are like little energy factories. So why does this matter in terms of what we bring into our lives? For example, if we are feeling depressed and like a victim about money, why not just feel those feelings and soak it up? When we feel angry and that our anger is justified, why not just let it cycle over and over? Why not even let it out on other people? Sometimes that release feels good in the moment- Right? Well, not only does it ultimately hurt you to cycle something like anger repeatedly, and also hurt others, it doesn’t solve issues usually to get you from where you are, to where you want to be.
In fact, if you get yourself cycling over and over and don’t feel able to get out of it, it can keep you trapped and stuck.
One way of understanding this as a metaphor, is imagine you are living in a neighborhood you hate, in a house that is awful and everything about your living situation and neighborhood is not what you want.
Well, it is important as a first step to identify and acknowledge that you are not happy in your neighborhood and no longer want to be there. It is relevant to think about why and acknowledge what is happening. However, only for a moment or very short amount of time. Otherwise, what happens is you will start getting sucked into the reactivity of it and be unable to easily move from noticing and reacting to constructively improving your situation.
The next steps after noticing is if you can practice some level of detachment. This reduces the momentum of the negative, painful emotions. But the more attached you are to the belief or feeling the harder it can be to detach from it. Yet, the more you practice this, the better and easier it gets.
To get back to the neighborhood analogy, if you want to be in a neighborhood (state of mind) you feel better in, it is important to detach and leave the current bad neighborhood so to speak. Then start, metaphorically speaking, to move to a new neighborhood or start building a new house.
Another analogy is with plants, we need to stop watering the ‘negative emotion’ plants and let them die and start watering the seeds of the plants that we wants (more positive experiences).
Part of this is for the simple reason that if we can start to resonate with what we are wanting, it comes closer to us. The more we react to what we don’t want, the more that sticks with us in general.
Sometimes people find it feels impossible to stop the attachment to the negative, they just feel they can’t. In this case, it can be useful to do things like travel, see new people, try new things, anything positive to create some variance and disruption in the negative looping cycle.
However, a very powerful way I have found is both love and detachment. When we can experience some degree of love with whatever we feel trapped in, it starts to loosen its grip and we can feel lighter and more free.
So something to ask yourself, whatever you are feel stuck in, can you feel some love for it somehow? Sometimes you need to be really creative with this and try to imagine the very big picture, but whenever you insert love with attachment to outcomes in, it lightens, loosens and shifts everything much more easily.
